Grandma cleans up grandchild's house without permission, throws away valuable items she deems trash, leading grandchild to demand the keys back: ‘She said I should be grateful’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Mar 17, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

Some people say that the best part of becoming parents is actually the moment you become grandparents. Meaning that the moment your kids start having their own kids is actually the moment that makes it all worth it.

Kids are difficult. They are a financial responsibility, they require your undivided attention, they never listen to you, and they blame you for everything. Grandchildren, on the other hand, are pure fun. They love you unconditionally, you can spoil them without having to bear the consequences, and they never hold you accountable for anything. Who doesn't love their grandparents?

Well, apparently, not all grandchildren get to enjoy this type of attention from their grandparents. It appears some actually struggle with grandparents who stretch their boundaries, and cross lines that should never be crossed. Sadly, this is exactly the type of thing you may expect from a parent, but never from a grandparent, which is what makes it so surprising.

The grandchild in the story below is currently dealing with a sticky situation with their grandmother, and is looking for advice.

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  • For some reason, this grandchild decided to give their grandmother a key to their place, to have just in case. However, grandma decided it was a good idea to simply enter their home while their grandchild is at work, and ‘clean up’ some of the mess they left behind.

    Including expensive items she deemed as trash, for no apparent reason.

    Scroll down to read how the rest of the story wend down.

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    "AITA for taking away my keys from my grandma?"

    Bare with me because this is a long one. My grandma came "to visit" today while I was at work and just wrote to me to say that she was horrified at how
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    much rubbish was flying around my house. I was very surprised by the message and wrote to her telling her not to break into my flat when I'm not there and
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    certainly not to criticise my non-existent mess. I just have a lot of stuff, but everything has its rightful place, the floor is clear and there's only what's supposed to be on the table.
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    Three hours later, I came home and realised that both my desk and the dining table were completely empty. For context: I paint a lot of miniatures in my free time.
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    and have a whole desk full of paints and equipment for doing so. I found the paints, brushes and tools for my miniatures in a drawer under my bed,
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    neatly lined up. The new Emperor's Children codex was on my bed. What was missing, however, were the plastic frames and bits from various Warhammer figures.
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    On the dining table were all my new Emperor's Children figures, which I had received the day before yesterday and had just put on the table and admired with great anticipation. On my desk
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    were three squads of Terminators, 700 points of Stormcasts and two Phoenix Lords. A total value of around €500! I searched through all the drawers and by now I was really panicking. After a very
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    long search, I called my grandma and asked her what had happened to the grey plastic that was lying around. Her answer was: "I threw the rubbish away. What was that anyway? Packaging material?"
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    I repeat again: she threw away stuff of mine that she didn't even know what it was! I asked her again whether she was really serious and whether she had any idea what "this rubbish" was for,
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    to which she simply said that I should be grateful that she had finally tidied up the place and couldn't understand why I was calling about something like that.
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    ... I then just said that I'd come round tomorrow and pick up my front door key and hung up. I didn't raise my voice once during the whole
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    conversation once and was simply in shock listening to whatever this was and then lay down on my bed, exhausted, and thought about what my next steps might be. After about 20
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    minutes, I put my shoes on, threw on a jacket and set off to go through the rubbish in the apartment complex. It took a really long time, but I found the bag again, in the residual rubbish, on top of
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    the remains of eggshells, a banana and a piece of gamy cucumber. After cleaning all the plastic frames and looking at the clock, I realised that this process alone had taken me two hours.
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    Am I the a hole in the act of wanting to take my flat keys away from my grandmother? Because I really don't see what alternative I have at the moment.
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    seeteethree NTA, but why the h" does your Grandmother have a key to your place? Are you 9?
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    B4umkuch3n OP She simply asked for it when I moved here. It's my first flat and the argumentation was, that everyone can lose their keys at some point in their life or that I could get injured and hospitalised and she could look for, idk, my expiring food in the fridge?
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    Bliezz NTA Warhammer is EXPENSIVE and it might LOOK like garbage when it's still on sprew, but it is NOT garbage.
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    Get that key back. Consider going low contact. Also, does your grandma craft? Perhaps quilting? Knitting? You could be "helpful" and throw out all of her little scraps of fabric that are "garbage strewn everywhere" the audacity.
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    B4umkuch3n OP Unfortunately, she doesn't have any of these hobbies and is one of those people who say it's a waste of time. She doesn't even have books at home.
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    TightAustinite 100% change the locks.
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    B4umkuch3n OP Already had plans in doing so because the current lock is twelve years old at this point and I don't know how many people lived here before I did.
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    RndmIntrntStranger My home has clutter (on the kitchen countertops). I'm ok with that. My mom's house is neat like a model home. She's ok with that. She doesn't like seeing my clutter, but what she does not do
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    is try to clean up my clutter. Bc my space is not her space. NTA. Grandma FA and about to FO.
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    HappySummerBreeze I would also print out brochures of the things she threw away with the price. Like go into a website and print the sale page. Nta
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    JustRoadieStuff NTA. You'd be stupid not to. Go early as possible so she has less chance to make a copy (if she hasn't already.)
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